How Do You Know if the INFJ is Becoming Your Friend?
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Kevin’s hot topics on Quora are history, free market economics, philosophy, and Myers Briggs typology, and many others. The following is one of his recent answers to the question in the title.
INFJs are rare and all my information is anecdotal, but I will do my best. I want to disclose at the beginning that I am an INTJ, which profoundly impacts my view of INFJs. I, personally, actively look for them and am always interested in exploring the development a friendship with them. The two types tend to “get” each other fairly quickly and get along. I wrote about the INTJ-INFJ relationship here.
The few INFJs I know are very reserved. As a result, they give the INTJ plenty of room the communicate. In my opinion, them being reserved is not a sign of anything than they are deeply thoughtful and very interested in the theater of the mind.
I am very quick to figure out one’s type. I get all but the first letter in fairly short order. If I see XNFJ, I try to figure out if they are an “I.” Having been married to an ENFJ for years, it is very easy for me to tell the difference.
Most will have to pursue the INFJ relationship. The INFJ will typically not do it. They are perfectly happy by themselves. However, they are very open to new friends that complement them and their look at life and the world around them.
One of my best friends is an INFJ and I will say he pursued me more than I did him. He knew quickly we would be a great connection and he was right. He is also well versed on Myers-Briggs and figured out I was an INTJ in just hearing me speak in ad-lib situations a few times. This only happened because he is a mature INFJ, that was well versed in Myers-Briggs, and knew he wanted more INTJS friends. INFJs are looking for INTJs in their lives and vice versa, for other personality types it is different.
INFJs are much more polite than some groups and so they will give you the impression they are friends, even if they see you as a mere associate; even being direct may not lead to you knowing your status with her/him.
I suggest anyone who wants to be friends with the illusive… (read more, also follow Kevin on Quora and check out his other content).
